Newer posts are loading.
You are at the newest post.
Click here to check if anything new just came in.

March 10 2013

16:35
It always struck me that men actually might benefit from the “bumbling idiot” stereotype. In very many of the dysfunctional heterosexual relationships I’ve observed, men basically only work then come home and do nothing, and women do a majority of the actual work and men use this learned or feigned helplessness to get women to do everything for them. They’re socialized this way, I think. I married this very equality talking, sensitive, feminist-ally, politically correct kind of man and yet the day we got back from our honeymoon, my ex husband suddenly became an infant who no longer knew how to operate an iron, pack a grocery bag, balance the budget, take a pee without splattering the entire bathroom, flush the toilet, cook his own meals, return phone calls, put his own dishes in the sink before they turned moldy, or even drop letters off at the post office.

The bumbling idiot stereotype doesn’t hurt men. Men are not being denied jobs or health care or legal rights because of being seen as bumbling idiots. They benefit from the stereotype because it means that women do everything.
— mousesinger (via swordssoarewords)

This is the sitcom staple stereotype (at least in the US), and I wish it would just go away. A wife having to act like her husband’s mother is not funny. A man constantly doing stupid things and lying to his wife in order to cover it up is not funny. A woman having a total meltdown because she can’t deal with her husband’s inappropriate behavior anymore is not funny. Enough. It makes both men and women look bad, and reinforces the idea that this sort of thing is “okay” in real life.

(via melissasoup)

Yep, I see a lot of men who think that taking care of themselves is only for when they’re single. They seem to have wife & mommy confused.

(via karnythia)

Reposted fromzweisatz zweisatz viafeminism feminism

March 09 2013

nymph
00:02
Play fullscreen

Damsel in Distress: Part 1 - Tropes vs Women in Video Games

Reposted fromn0g n0g viamonimich monimich

March 06 2013

23:33

March 04 2013

23:18
Sie haben Probleme mit den herrschenden Geschlechterrollen, fühlen sich aber besonders von denen bedrängt, die diese kritisieren (also Feministinnen). Das ist doch… sagen wir: nicht sehr weitsichtig/durchdacht/whatever.
TheGurkenkaiser on Equalismus und Feminismus in der Piratenpartei

February 21 2013

14:46
This pattern - women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women - suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered. So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.
— via Sociological Images (via dauphinexvx)
Reposted byheythereivanacygenb0ckn0gtinselAgneslordminxFlypnblubberbinaschaafbrightbytetutuszweisatzTokei-IhtoacidnewtallicattysofastSirenensanglhabcstraycatylem235TokyoMEWSmolotovcupcake

February 20 2013

14:50

Wissen ist Macht

Beim Lesen beschlich mich der Verdacht, dass Daenerys und ihr Coming out als Drachenfrau mehr mit wirtschaftlichem Kalkül als mit der inneren Logik des Romans zu tun haben, dass Dany das Fantasy-Element stärken und ein weibliches Marktsegment abdecken soll, das mit Rittern schwer zu ködern ist. Inwieweit das mit einer Heldin klappen kann, die von einem Nachfahren von Conan dem Barbaren gekauft und jede Nacht vergewaltigt wird, ehe sie ihn lieben lernt (irgendwie ist das noch mit dem Mutterinstinkt verknüpft, was bei Elisabeth Badinter Schreikrämpfe auslösen müsste), vermag ich nicht zu beurteilen.

[…]

Sie bringt Drogo bei, wie toll es ist, wenn man sich beim Sex in die Augen schaut (die Drachenfrau ist oben). Der Khal ist so begeistert, dass er einen von Trommelwirbel begleiteten Orgasmus hat. Den wollen wir auch der dabei geschwängerten Khaleesi wünschen, die ihren Vergewaltiger nun doch ganz gut findet, weil die Frauen seltsame Wesen sind (oder weil die Männer, die sich das ausdachten, es so haben wollten).

February 08 2013

14:59

How to be a Fan of Problematic Things

Liking problematic things doesn’t make you an asshole. In fact, you can like really problematic things and still be not only a good person, but a good social justice activist (TM)! After all, most texts have some problematic elements in them, because they’re produced by humans, who are well-known to be imperfect. But it can be surprisingly difficult to own up to the problematic things in the media you like, particularly when you feel strongly about it, as many fans do. We need to find a way to enjoy the media we like without hurting other people and marginalised groups. So with that in mind, here are my suggestions for things we should try our darnedest to do as self-confessed fans of problematic stuff.

Firstly, acknowledge that the thing you like is problematic and do not attempt to make excuses for it. It is a unique irritation to encounter a person who point blank refuses to admit that something they like is problematic. Infuriatingly, people will often actually articulate some version of the argument “It can’t be problematic because I like it, and I’m nice”. Alternatively, some fans may find it tempting to argue “Well this media is a realistic portrayal of societies like X, Y, Z”.

[…]

And even if you think that’s true […], I don’t see you arguing for an accurate portrayal of everything in your fiction all the time. For example, most people seem fine without accurate portrayal of what personal hygiene was really like in 1300 CE in their medieval fantasy media.

[…]

Especially do not ever suggest that people not take media “so seriously”, or argue that it’s “just” a tv show. […] [E]ven if you don’t think that media matters, there is still no reason to focus exclusively on unequal or problematic fictional worlds and narratives. If it doesn’t matter, why don’t YOU stop taking your media so seriously and stop fighting us on this? You with your constant demands for your narrow idea of “realism” (which by the way often sounds a lot like “show me naked skinny ciswomen, and gore”). If in your framework tv shows aren’t serious business, why does realism matter?

February 07 2013

19:28
Ein Moment der Tollpatschigkeit, Captain Cook beleidigt die Scheiß-Einheimischen, ein falscher Zungenschlag oder ein Missbrauch des heiligen Bestecks, und - peng! - ist er auf dem Bratrost. Haben Sie je daran gedacht, wie selbstherrlich dieses Zeug ist? Oh, all diese Geschichten täuschen vor, Schuldeingeständnisse wegen kultureller Gefühllosigkeit zu sein - Huch, wir haben das Falsche gesagt. Doch sie handeln in Wirklichkeit alle davon, wie lächerlich Eingeborene überreagieren.
— Wyatt, Stadt der Fremden [China Miéville]
16:40

Shortly after Bayonetta was released, I started seeing a bunch of articles and blogs pop up stating that Bayonetta was an awesome feminist role model; a powerful woman who was comfortable using her sexuality to get what she wanted. That came as a surprise to me. In my opinion, any character that reinforces the idea that women need to self-objectify in order to get what they want isn’t doing much for feminism.

Not coincidentally, Hideki Kamiya, the creator of Bayonetta doesn’t seem much for feminism either. When asked about his favorite Bayonetta moment, he said -

Well, if I had to pick one, I would say it is the scene where Joy first appears in the game, with Bayonetta and her impostor getting into a pose battle. That was my way of expressing the feminine notion that, to one woman, all other women are enemies. Even women walking by each other will check out what the other is wearing, and might smolder a bit with antagonism. Women are scary.

Bayonetta dev: To one woman, all other women are enemies, Destructoid

Reposted byvoyd voyd

February 06 2013

13:46
4955 a49b

ozyreads:

fabulous!

Reposted frommynnia mynnia viaNorkNork NorkNork

January 30 2013

22:19
nymph
14:48

January 17 2013

16:27
‘Für wen war der Weißwein?’ fragte sie, nur um Dana sagen zu hören: ‘Für mich’, obwohl bei einem Zweiertisch - ein Mann, eine Frau - auch eine geistig Zurückgebliebene an ihrem ersten Arbeitstag gewusst hätte, dass der Weißwein für die Dame und das Bier für den Herrn war.
— Thanks, T.C. Boyle, for letting me know that women don’t drink beer [and apparently, men don’t drink wine].

January 16 2013

14:20

A Note on the Nice Guys of OkCupid

It’s hard to suppress a horrified snigger at the unexamined hypocrisy, at the sheer number of men out there who seem to believe, for example, that stating publicly that “a no is just a yes that needs a little convincing” is morally or logically consistent with being “a nice guy” who women would be clamouring to date if we weren’t such shallow sluts.

[…]

Reading ‘Nice Guys of OkCupid’ reminded me that for men, as well as for women, the political is personal. Deeply, often painfully personal. Observing the ugly logic whereby these so-called ‘nice guys’ have twisted their private fear of rejection into gender-loaded loathing and self-justfication of rape culture did not improve my day one little bit, but it did make me think again about how personal sexism like this really gets, and why.

[…]

Are we obligated to be understanding when men write spurious bullshit about sluts over their ‘looking for’ lists? Are we ever going to be able to have a conversation about consent, about respect, about fucking, and maybe even about love, that doesn’t descend into bullying and invective?

12:55
Frauen müssen beweisen, dass sie entgegen dem Stereotyp unaufgeregt und sachlich sind, um mitreden zu können und ernst genommen zu werden. Am besten jede einzeln für sich, während jedes „Versagen“ für das ganze Geschlecht gezählt wird.
Frauen und Netzpolitik, Femgeeks
Reposted bySirenensangfeminismnerdanel

January 02 2013

16:08

blackfoxx:

elizabitchtaylor:

I’m such a nice girl, I’m so sick of being fuckzoned!!!!!!!

What’s the fuckzone you ask? it’s this zone that guys put you in where they only want to fuck you; they don’t want to have a friendship with you and they aren’t satisfied with emotional commitment, they just want sex!!!!!

I’m a nice girl!!!! Stop putting me in the fuckzone!!!!!!!

OMG this is SO PERFECT!!!

Reposted fromzweisatz zweisatz viafeminism feminism

December 30 2012

16:39

emiello:

thisgentlemanbastard:

brittle-little-boy:

Reaction To Women Abusing Men In Public (by Clotheslinemedia)

“It is a big problem in this country [….] men create more damage, but women hit more than men do.”

Many of the people who did nothing in the face of abuse by a woman repeatedly say that they assume the man deserved it, that she had caught him cheating, and felt that this was reason enough to abuse him. One literally said, “he looked guilty.” Another said, “I would find it more upsetting if he were putting his hands on her.” One woman cheers as a man is abused by a woman, later admitting she assumed he had it coming.

One of the people who walked by and did nothing was a police officer. He stated that had it been the man being the aggressor, he would have stepped in.

The message is pretty fucking clear:

It’s okay for women to abuse men.

It’s also not noticed socially that men can be victims of domestic abuse and violence. They’re assumed to be strong and therefore unable to be emotionally, physically, or even sexually abused.

Yay for gender roles and stereotypes that encourage the notion that women are harmless and men can’t feel or show pain.

16:38
I hate how the phrase ‘have some self respect’ is used to shame women who are comfortable with their sex lives. ‘Have some self respect’? I do respect myself, that’s why I wanna have a fucking orgasm tonight, thank you very much.
— Unknown (via call-boy)

December 29 2012

01:35
Men get to feel hornier because they’re socially supported in this. The whole of society is geared toward titillating men and discouraging female sexual desire. It’s inherent to the Nice Guy® complaint, where men are entitled to feel physical attraction, but a woman who wants more than “nice” is shallow. It’s evident in the way men and women dress, with women always mindful to wear stuff that makes them sexually attractive, whereas men have the opposite problem, and have to avoid being too sexualized lest they seem feminine. Naked women are draped over every inch of public space, and the internet is full of visually interesting porn for men, but our society barely can imagine what it would be like to try to attract a female eye. Men seem hornier in no small part because their sexuality is celebrated and codified. It’s easy for men to know right away how to be sexual, whereas women are still largely expected to figure it out for themselves—and even that’s a recent invention, because pre-feminism, women were mostly just expected to do what men wanted.

But even with the small amount of freedom we have, it’s worth noting that a 30-year-old woman who admitted obliquely to having had non-procreative sex in Congress created a month long, nationwide scandal. Until that kind of pressure disappears completely, we can’t even begin to measure what the “natural”, unadulterated female sexuality would look like, and how it would compare to the celebrated and constantly titillated male sexuality.

Either way, stop blaming sex for misogyny. If all men wanted was women to fuck them more, the English language wouldn’t even have the word “slut” in it.
Amanda Marcotte, Misogyny isn’t caused by male horninesson David Wong’s article 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women (via ellielamothe)
Reposted bykrekk krekk

December 28 2012

21:45
2942 fefc 500

feministdisney:

the subtitling on this is admittedly funny, but also worth noting is that this is an example of women and femininity used as a prop in a lot of movies and tv shows.   A male horse dresses up as a female horse, and this is planned to be enough to lure the other male horse in; and it works.    In most situations it’s not horses, of course, but this general setup reinforces the idea that womanhood is often used as a lure for men.   This theme is so common that even young children understand the scene and find it funny.  

It is a small moment- a microaggression of expected behaviors- but it definitely is one way in which we are encouraged to see men and women, and sexuality, in a very certain way.  There is a reason the stereotype that “women go along with sex [or advances of any sort] because they want something else out of it, and men always want sex and can be manipulated into doing other things with it,” persists. It is a disservice to all parties.

(I should also note that there definitely some potential homophobia or trans*phobia in this scene- the horse on the left is clearly taken aback by the “suggestive neighing” even when it was the anticipated response.   In scenes like this, which are, again, quite common throughout media, part of the implied “joke” is also about a “man in woman’s clothing being, hit on by a man who thinks the first man is a woman WHEN HE’S NOT REALLY.”   This goes back to a lot of cultural fears about trans* individuals, who are often wrongly interpreted as “a man in woman’s clothing,” for example.)

Correct me if I’m wrong [as I have neither seen the movie nor much experience with the topics discussed], but it also seems like the ‘male’ horse does not wear any clothing to suggest its masculinity, whereas the ‘female’ one is wearing a dress etc. [i.e., stereotypically ‘female’ clothing] - suggesting that somehow, a male gender does not have to be made specifically noticeable?

Older posts are this way If this message doesn't go away, click anywhere on the page to continue loading posts.
Could not load more posts
Maybe Soup is currently being updated? I'll try again automatically in a few seconds...
Just a second, loading more posts...
You've reached the end.

Don't be the product, buy the product!

Schweinderl