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You know what? No. No, I do not think that girl is as beautiful as the woman on the right. And before you social justice bloggers come stampeding into my askbox, wondering how I could be such a heartless bitch - hear me out.
The girl on the left isn’t beautiful. The girl on the left does not have flawless skin, or blonde hair, or baby-blue eyes or a pair of double-d’s. What she is, however, is sick. And telling her that she’s beautiful as an attempt to comfort her? Is just plain cruel.
You’re telling her that she’s only redeemable when she’s beautiful. You don’t give a damn about her illness, no. You just want to sleep at night, thinking what a great person you are for lying to a little girl. Do you think that girl believes she is truly, in the eyes of society, beautiful? She doesn’t. And I dare someone to look me in the eyes and say she’s wrong. We all know she’s not beautiful, but we tell her otherwise, tell ourselves otherwise because we feel guilty and we think that, by “saving” this poor, ill child with false claims of beauty, we are better people because of it.
That girl is beautiful because she is fighting. She’s beautiful because she isn’t beautiful, not in all the physical ways we obsess over. She’s beautiful because of her personality- and that is why her’s is a life worth living.
Not because some stranger on the internet lied, and told her she’s “beautiful”.
“ It always struck me that men actually might benefit from the “bumbling idiot” stereotype. In very many of the dysfunctional heterosexual relationships I’ve observed, men basically only work then come home and do nothing, and women do a majority of the actual work and men use this learned or feigned helplessness to get women to do everything for them. They’re socialized this way, I think. I married this very equality talking, sensitive, feminist-ally, politically correct kind of man and yet the day we got back from our honeymoon, my ex husband suddenly became an infant who no longer knew how to operate an iron, pack a grocery bag, balance the budget, take a pee without splattering the entire bathroom, flush the toilet, cook his own meals, return phone calls, put his own dishes in the sink before they turned moldy, or even drop letters off at the post office.— mousesinger (via swordssoarewords)
The bumbling idiot stereotype doesn’t hurt men. Men are not being denied jobs or health care or legal rights because of being seen as bumbling idiots. They benefit from the stereotype because it means that women do everything. ”
This is the sitcom staple stereotype (at least in the US), and I wish it would just go away. A wife having to act like her husband’s mother is not funny. A man constantly doing stupid things and lying to his wife in order to cover it up is not funny. A woman having a total meltdown because she can’t deal with her husband’s inappropriate behavior anymore is not funny. Enough. It makes both men and women look bad, and reinforces the idea that this sort of thing is “okay” in real life.
Yep, I see a lot of men who think that taking care of themselves is only for when they’re single. They seem to have wife & mommy confused.
“ People who dismiss the unemployed and dependent as ‘parasites’ fail to understand economics and parasitism. A successful parasite is one that is not recognized by its host, one that can make its host work for it without appearing as a burden. Such is a ruling class in a capitalist society. ”— Jason Read (via dauphinexvx)
“ Homophobia isn’t the same as heteronormativity, at all, and I think that heteronormativity can be harder to fight because it’s so subconscious, so deeply ingrained throughout our entire society in all kinds of cultural productions, TV, film, books, everything. It’s everywhere. That’s harder to fight. ”— Malinda Lo (via arcadiaego)
“ Sie haben Probleme mit den herrschenden Geschlechterrollen, fühlen sich aber besonders von denen bedrängt, die diese kritisieren (also Feministinnen). Das ist doch… sagen wir: nicht sehr weitsichtig/durchdacht/whatever. ”— TheGurkenkaiser on Equalismus und Feminismus in der Piratenpartei
“ Jedem halbwegs intelligenten Menschen sollte klar sein, dass es kein unbegrenztes Wachstum geben kann. Es kann nicht einmal einen stetig gleichbleibenden Absatz von so Tinnef wie Computern oder Autos oder Fernsehern geben, weil einfach irgendwann eine Sättigung eintreten muss, es sei denn, die vertrottelten "Verbraucher" lassen sich dazu überreden, schnellere größere "bessere" PCs/Fernseher/Autos zu kaufen, weil "man das haben muss". Bierbrauer und Winzer haben es da besser. Das Zeug geht oben rein, kommt unten wieder raus und wird dann nachgekauft. Ein PC wird erst nachgekauft, wenn er obsolet ist und bei den Leistungen, die aktuelle PCs bringen, passiert das eben nicht mehr alle 2 Jahre.— http://todamax.kicks-ass.net/2013/das-ende-des-wachstums/
Ich finde das überhaupt nicht schlimm. Klar kommen jetzt wieder irgendwelche Dampfplauderer mit Arbeitsplätzen, die wegfallen werden. Aber ich schätze, das ist eben auch nur ein Zeichen der Zeit. Es gibt nunmal gar nicht so viel Arbeit, dass 7 Milliarden Menschen jeden Tag 8 Stunden an irgendwas rumfummeln könnten bei unseren hoch effizienten Prozessen. Entweder wir gehen wieder dazu über, Mehl von Hand zu mahlen oder wir arrangieren uns endlich mit der Wahrheit: wir könnten genauso gut nur 4 Stunden am Tag arbeiten und die Arbeit würde trotzdem erledigt werden. Und Wachstum ist nicht unendlich. ”
“ Not one single hurtful thing ever got changed by someone grinning and bearing it.— (via moniquill)
Hurtful things changed because people have said ‘That hurts me. Stop.’
And every time you try to silence someone and tell them that they shouldn’t be hurt, shouldn’t be offended, shouldn’t choose this battle, that this isn’t important and that other things are more important - you are serving the hurtful rather than the hurt. ”
Your personal experience of oppression doesn’t pardon your contribution to other means of oppression, your suffering doesn’t give you the right to put an innocent third party through equal or worse suffering and the longevity and normalization of an oppressive act doesn’t warrant its continuance.
“ Water is two parts hydrogen and one part oxygen. What if someone says, “Well, that’s not how I choose to think about water”? All we can do is appeal to scientific values. And if they don’t share those values, the conversation is over. If someone doesn’t value evidence, what evidence are you going to provide to prove that they should value it? If someone doesn’t value logic, what logical argument could you provide to show the importance of logic? ”— Sam Harris (via dauphinexvx)
Few solid statistics are available about prevalence of eating disorders amongst men. Because eating disorders are thought of as a “girl thing”, men who have them feel even more shame and are less likely to get help.
For men and women, symptoms vary slightly. Women tend to focus on weight loss while men tend to focus on muscle gain - however, both are found engaging in extreme alterations in diet, over-exercising, and even use of performance enhancing/appetite suppressing drugs.
Check out NEDA for more info & keep an eye on my Tumblr this week to learn more about eating disorders!
“ Not every white person is a racist, but the genius of racism is that you don’t have to participate to enjoy the spoils. If you’re white, you can be completely oblivious, passively accepting the status quo, and reap the rewards. ”— Mychal Denzel Smith, “White People Have to Give Up Racism” (via dauphinexvx)
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