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March 10 2013


March 05 2013

More importantly: if you are going around asking people to speak at your event and they are generally under-represented at your event (say, women at a tech conference), you need to avoid treating them in a special way. Nobody wants to be invited to speak because of their gender, or skin colour, or sexual orientation, or whatever else. Nobody likes special treatment. Nobody likes to be the token-representative.
Beating the Odds - How we got 25% Women Speakers for JSConf EU 2012

March 04 2013

Sie haben Probleme mit den herrschenden Geschlechterrollen, fühlen sich aber besonders von denen bedrängt, die diese kritisieren (also Feministinnen). Das ist doch… sagen wir: nicht sehr weitsichtig/durchdacht/whatever.
TheGurkenkaiser on Equalismus und Feminismus in der Piratenpartei

February 27 2013

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Few solid statistics are available about prevalence of eating disorders amongst men.  Because eating disorders are thought of as a “girl thing”, men who have them feel even more shame and are less likely to get help.  

For men and women, symptoms vary slightly.  Women tend to focus on weight loss while men tend to focus on muscle gain - however, both are found engaging in extreme alterations in diet, over-exercising, and even use of performance enhancing/appetite suppressing drugs.

Check out NEDA for more info & keep an eye on my Tumblr this week to learn more about eating disorders!

February 23 2013



“boys will be boys”

“he’s a guy, he can’t help it”

“that’s just how men are”


Tags: memes sexism
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February 21 2013

This pattern - women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women - suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered. So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.
— via Sociological Images (via dauphinexvx)
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February 14 2013

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The reality of misogyny as it applies to labeling and sexuality.

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February 08 2013


How to be a Fan of Problematic Things

Liking problematic things doesn’t make you an asshole. In fact, you can like really problematic things and still be not only a good person, but a good social justice activist (TM)! After all, most texts have some problematic elements in them, because they’re produced by humans, who are well-known to be imperfect. But it can be surprisingly difficult to own up to the problematic things in the media you like, particularly when you feel strongly about it, as many fans do. We need to find a way to enjoy the media we like without hurting other people and marginalised groups. So with that in mind, here are my suggestions for things we should try our darnedest to do as self-confessed fans of problematic stuff.

Firstly, acknowledge that the thing you like is problematic and do not attempt to make excuses for it. It is a unique irritation to encounter a person who point blank refuses to admit that something they like is problematic. Infuriatingly, people will often actually articulate some version of the argument “It can’t be problematic because I like it, and I’m nice”. Alternatively, some fans may find it tempting to argue “Well this media is a realistic portrayal of societies like X, Y, Z”.


And even if you think that’s true […], I don’t see you arguing for an accurate portrayal of everything in your fiction all the time. For example, most people seem fine without accurate portrayal of what personal hygiene was really like in 1300 CE in their medieval fantasy media.


Especially do not ever suggest that people not take media “so seriously”, or argue that it’s “just” a tv show. […] [E]ven if you don’t think that media matters, there is still no reason to focus exclusively on unequal or problematic fictional worlds and narratives. If it doesn’t matter, why don’t YOU stop taking your media so seriously and stop fighting us on this? You with your constant demands for your narrow idea of “realism” (which by the way often sounds a lot like “show me naked skinny ciswomen, and gore”). If in your framework tv shows aren’t serious business, why does realism matter?

February 07 2013


Shortly after Bayonetta was released, I started seeing a bunch of articles and blogs pop up stating that Bayonetta was an awesome feminist role model; a powerful woman who was comfortable using her sexuality to get what she wanted. That came as a surprise to me. In my opinion, any character that reinforces the idea that women need to self-objectify in order to get what they want isn’t doing much for feminism.

Not coincidentally, Hideki Kamiya, the creator of Bayonetta doesn’t seem much for feminism either. When asked about his favorite Bayonetta moment, he said -

Well, if I had to pick one, I would say it is the scene where Joy first appears in the game, with Bayonetta and her impostor getting into a pose battle. That was my way of expressing the feminine notion that, to one woman, all other women are enemies. Even women walking by each other will check out what the other is wearing, and might smolder a bit with antagonism. Women are scary.

Bayonetta dev: To one woman, all other women are enemies, Destructoid

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February 06 2013


What do you call a woman with a penis?


Her name.

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February 05 2013


February 04 2013


“Ich bin kein Sexist” – so what?

Ich gehe eigentlich davon aus, dass “kein Sexist zu sein” selbstverständlich ist. Wie kann man nur auf die Idee kommen, sich damit Kekse verdienen zu können? Sexist ist jemand, der absichtlich Frauen diskriminiert, der von einer prinzipiellen männlichen Überlegenheit ausgeht, der Frauen unterdrücken möchte und dazu steht. Ich meine: Solche Leute gibt es. Aber mit ihnen eine politische Diskussion über weibliche Freiheit zu führen, ist relativ sinnlos, weil sie ja eingestandenermaßen daran überhaupt nicht interessiert sind.

Debatten über Wege zu einer anderen symbolischen Ordnung des Geschlechterverhältnisses setzen voraus, dass die Beteiligten auch daran interessiert sind, die Verhältnisse zu verbessern – wenn sie auch unterschiedliche Ansichten dazu haben, wie sich das bewerkstelligen ließe. Die Geschlechterverhältnisse, in denen wir leben, betreffen uns alle. Jede und jeder ist auf die eine oder andere Weise von ihnen betroffen und arbeitet daran mit, sie zu stabilisieren, oder bemüht sich, sie zu verändern. Es gibt keine “neutrale” Position. Kein Sexist zu sein ist die selbstverständliche Voraussetzung, wenn man ernsthaft bei dem Thema mitdiskutieren will.


Und dabei kann “Ich bin kein Sexist” kein sinnvolles Argument sein. Oder anders: Wer dieses Argument vorbringt, beweist dadurch nur, dass er eben gerade nicht daran interessiert ist, das Verhältnis von Frauen und Männern zu verbessern. Sondern dass er glaubt, wenn ihm nur kein Sexismus nachgewiesen werden kann, habe er ein Recht darauf, mit “Genderthemen” in Ruhe gelassen zu werden.

Zu sagen “Ich bin kein Sexist” ist also ein Zeichen von Ignoranz. Es gibt keinen Grund, sich darauf was einzubilden.

February 02 2013

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what if i werk it like a boss? ;D

Tags: sexism

January 30 2013


January 22 2013

One thing to point out is that when masculinity is used to insult women it is almost always used to imply that she is ugly, where femininity is used to insult a man’s value, strength, courage, etc. The idea then is that a manly woman is bad because she is less appealing to men, while a womanly man is just bad.
suntag on “Woman” as an Insult
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January 21 2013

When Stuyvesant says that women’s dress and bodies are distraction in a learning environment, for example, what they’re really saying is that they’re distracting to male students. The default student we are concerned about - the student whose learning we want to ensure is protected - is male. Never mind how “distracting” it is to be pulled from class, humiliated, and made to change outfits - publicly degrading young women is small price to pay to make sure that a boy doesn’t have to suffer through the momentary distraction of glancing at a girl’s legs. When this dentist in Iowa can fire his assistant for turning him on - even though she’s done absolutely nothing wrong - the message again is that it’s men’s ability to work that’s important.

And when rape victims are blamed for the crime committed against them, the message is the same: This is something that happened to the perpetrator, who was driven to assault by a skirt, or a date, or the oh-so-sexy invitation of being passed out drunk. Women have infringed on their right to exist without being turned on. (Ta-Nehisi Coates describes this centering of male sexual vulnerability quite well.) Our very presence is a disruption of the male status quo.
— From my latest at The Nation, “Asking For It” (via jessicavalenti)
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January 17 2013

‘Für wen war der Weißwein?’ fragte sie, nur um Dana sagen zu hören: ‘Für mich’, obwohl bei einem Zweiertisch - ein Mann, eine Frau - auch eine geistig Zurückgebliebene an ihrem ersten Arbeitstag gewusst hätte, dass der Weißwein für die Dame und das Bier für den Herrn war.
— Thanks, T.C. Boyle, for letting me know that women don’t drink beer [and apparently, men don’t drink wine].

January 16 2013


A Note on the Nice Guys of OkCupid

It’s hard to suppress a horrified snigger at the unexamined hypocrisy, at the sheer number of men out there who seem to believe, for example, that stating publicly that “a no is just a yes that needs a little convincing” is morally or logically consistent with being “a nice guy” who women would be clamouring to date if we weren’t such shallow sluts.


Reading ‘Nice Guys of OkCupid’ reminded me that for men, as well as for women, the political is personal. Deeply, often painfully personal. Observing the ugly logic whereby these so-called ‘nice guys’ have twisted their private fear of rejection into gender-loaded loathing and self-justfication of rape culture did not improve my day one little bit, but it did make me think again about how personal sexism like this really gets, and why.


Are we obligated to be understanding when men write spurious bullshit about sluts over their ‘looking for’ lists? Are we ever going to be able to have a conversation about consent, about respect, about fucking, and maybe even about love, that doesn’t descend into bullying and invective?

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