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March 10 2013

It always struck me that men actually might benefit from the “bumbling idiot” stereotype. In very many of the dysfunctional heterosexual relationships I’ve observed, men basically only work then come home and do nothing, and women do a majority of the actual work and men use this learned or feigned helplessness to get women to do everything for them. They’re socialized this way, I think. I married this very equality talking, sensitive, feminist-ally, politically correct kind of man and yet the day we got back from our honeymoon, my ex husband suddenly became an infant who no longer knew how to operate an iron, pack a grocery bag, balance the budget, take a pee without splattering the entire bathroom, flush the toilet, cook his own meals, return phone calls, put his own dishes in the sink before they turned moldy, or even drop letters off at the post office.

The bumbling idiot stereotype doesn’t hurt men. Men are not being denied jobs or health care or legal rights because of being seen as bumbling idiots. They benefit from the stereotype because it means that women do everything.
— mousesinger (via swordssoarewords)

This is the sitcom staple stereotype (at least in the US), and I wish it would just go away. A wife having to act like her husband’s mother is not funny. A man constantly doing stupid things and lying to his wife in order to cover it up is not funny. A woman having a total meltdown because she can’t deal with her husband’s inappropriate behavior anymore is not funny. Enough. It makes both men and women look bad, and reinforces the idea that this sort of thing is “okay” in real life.

(via melissasoup)

Yep, I see a lot of men who think that taking care of themselves is only for when they’re single. They seem to have wife & mommy confused.

(via karnythia)

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March 05 2013

More importantly: if you are going around asking people to speak at your event and they are generally under-represented at your event (say, women at a tech conference), you need to avoid treating them in a special way. Nobody wants to be invited to speak because of their gender, or skin colour, or sexual orientation, or whatever else. Nobody likes special treatment. Nobody likes to be the token-representative.
Beating the Odds - How we got 25% Women Speakers for JSConf EU 2012

March 04 2013

Sie haben Probleme mit den herrschenden Geschlechterrollen, fühlen sich aber besonders von denen bedrängt, die diese kritisieren (also Feministinnen). Das ist doch… sagen wir: nicht sehr weitsichtig/durchdacht/whatever.
TheGurkenkaiser on Equalismus und Feminismus in der Piratenpartei

March 03 2013


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February 25 2013



The child I babysit sometimes is 5 years old. Last time I went to take care of him I noticed he has this awesome painting of the moon in his bedroom. He told me his mothers friend painted it. After he told me the artists name he then explained to me “She used to be a boy but she didn’t feel good so now she just takes medicine and it helps her to be a girl. She feels better” 

It’s literally that easy to explain it to kids. 

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February 21 2013

This pattern - women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women - suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered. So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.
— via Sociological Images (via dauphinexvx)
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February 06 2013

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Harriet & Draconia vel Conie D;
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January 30 2013


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I’m gonna reblog this every time it comes across my dash <3

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December 28 2012

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the subtitling on this is admittedly funny, but also worth noting is that this is an example of women and femininity used as a prop in a lot of movies and tv shows.   A male horse dresses up as a female horse, and this is planned to be enough to lure the other male horse in; and it works.    In most situations it’s not horses, of course, but this general setup reinforces the idea that womanhood is often used as a lure for men.   This theme is so common that even young children understand the scene and find it funny.  

It is a small moment- a microaggression of expected behaviors- but it definitely is one way in which we are encouraged to see men and women, and sexuality, in a very certain way.  There is a reason the stereotype that “women go along with sex [or advances of any sort] because they want something else out of it, and men always want sex and can be manipulated into doing other things with it,” persists. It is a disservice to all parties.

(I should also note that there definitely some potential homophobia or trans*phobia in this scene- the horse on the left is clearly taken aback by the “suggestive neighing” even when it was the anticipated response.   In scenes like this, which are, again, quite common throughout media, part of the implied “joke” is also about a “man in woman’s clothing being, hit on by a man who thinks the first man is a woman WHEN HE’S NOT REALLY.”   This goes back to a lot of cultural fears about trans* individuals, who are often wrongly interpreted as “a man in woman’s clothing,” for example.)

Correct me if I’m wrong [as I have neither seen the movie nor much experience with the topics discussed], but it also seems like the ‘male’ horse does not wear any clothing to suggest its masculinity, whereas the ‘female’ one is wearing a dress etc. [i.e., stereotypically ‘female’ clothing] - suggesting that somehow, a male gender does not have to be made specifically noticeable?

December 21 2012

"This is the real ad for one of the guns used to kill 20 children and six adults in the recent school massacre in Newtown, CT
We talk a lot about how unrealistically airbrushed models affect the way women and girls see themselves, but with 61 of the past 62 mass shootings having been committed by men, we need to open a dialogue about the idea of masculinity and how it affects the way we men see ourselves."
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December 04 2012

Das DIW betitelt eine Pressemitteilung mit "Auto-Mobilität: Mehr Frauen und ältere Menschen am Steuer". In der taz ist dazu zu lesen:

"Frauen - über alle Altersgruppen gesehen - nennen häufiger ein privates Kraftfahrzeug ihr Eigen und nutzen es auch öfter als vor zehn Jahren, während Männer diesbezüglich bescheidener geworden sind."

Irgendwie bekomme ich beim Lesen das Gefühl, dass Frauen jetzt besonders häufig hinter dem Lenkrad sitzen. Dass sie im Gegensatz zu Männern nicht umweltbewusster werden und häufiger andere Verkehrsmittel wählen. Die Frauen als Umweltsäue.

Sowohl der taz-Artikel wie die DIW-Pressemitteilung zeigen aber mal wieder die Schwierigkeiten der Interpretation von statistischen Daten. In der Pressemitteilung steht:

"Frauen spielen eine immer wichtigere Rolle im Pkw-Verkehr: Auf 1 000 Frauen kommen heute 400 Autos, vor zehn Jahren waren es rund 280 Autos. 1 000 Männer teilen sich rechnerisch etwa 715 Fahrzeuge."

Die Überschrift dazu könnte auch lauten: "Fast doppelt so viele Männer haben Autos". Denn 715 von 1000 Männer haben ein Auto, aber nur 400 von 1000 Frauen. Wieviele Autos 1000 Männer vor zehn Jahren hatten, teilt die Pressemitteilung nicht mit. Auf dieser Grundlage kann ich also nicht feststellen, wie sich das Verhältnis von Frauen-Autos zu Männer-Autos verändert hat. Ist es gleich geblieben? Hat sich der Abstand verringert oder vergrößert? Wenn diese Information vorliegen würde, liesse sich etwas über die Veränderung des Gender-Unterschieds aussagen.

Auf Basis der vorliegenden Statistik liesse sich auch titeln: "Frauen weiterhin viel umweltbewusster als Männer - sie verweigern sich der Angleichung im Autobesitz" oder "Frauen scheinen weiterhin über weniger ökonomische Ressourcen zu verfügen" oder ....

Anhand der explizit angebenen Statistiken lässt sich schön sehen, wer als normal angesehen wird und deswegen nicht besonders betrachtet werden muss: der mittelalte Mann. Über den erfahren wir nur indirekt etwas, dadurch das die Jungen, die Alten und die Frauen in Bezug zu ihm gesetzt werden.

Dass Männer bescheidener geworden sind, kann ich aus den Daten hingegen nicht ersehen.
anders deutsch: Mehr Frauen?
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December 03 2012

Meanwhile in Sweden of the Day: Gender-swapped Children's Toy Catalogue
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I hate all this "real women have curves" bullshit.


Real women don’t have curves.

Real women aren’t skinny.

Real women are flesh, blood and bone.

Do you identify as a woman?

Good, then you are a real woman.

Move on.

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December 01 2012

It can be difficult for men to accept that exceptionalism, which is often intended as a compliment (and frequently received as such!—because women are socialized to hate women just as much as men are), is, in fact, a profoundly damaging anti-feminist practice. But the flipside of complimenting individual women by detaching them from womankind is turning the vast majority of women into an indistinguishable horde with universally contemptible traits.

Exceptionalizing a woman can also, in the long term, serve to undermine her sense of self, as it obliquely encourages her, in a bid to retain her value as an Exceptional Woman, to reject any part of herself that might be seen as stereotypical of women. Even if not so intended, exceptionalism thus becomes a form of control, tacitly encouraging a woman to futilely try to wrench her personhood from her womanhood, which is impossible and thus ultimately breeds self-loathing and/or contempt for the man who exceptionalizes her.
Feminism 101: Helpful Hints for Dudes - Part 2, Shakesville

November 25 2012


Rosa Rollback

Wenn man so tut, als gäbe es keinen Sexismus mehr, werden Mädchen wieder zu Puppen. Über die Pinkifizierung der kindlichen Lebenswelt.

Als ich klein war, musste ich kein Rosa tragen. Die Kinderabteilung von H&M war noch nicht nach Geschlechtern getrennt, und im Freibad konnte ich selbstverständlich nur mit einer Badehose bekleidet ins Becken springen. Ich trug die Haare kurz, hin und wieder zum Igelkopf gegelt. Unsere Eltern schenkten meiner Schwester und mir Bauklötze und Barbies. Am liebsten spielte ich mit Johannes, meinem Nachbarn, der meine dreizehn identischen Blondinen unterscheiden konnte und immer die Schaumbarbie sein wollte.

2012 kann ich in einer Boutique für Babygeschenke zwischen rosa und hellblauen Spieluhren wählen, und als ich für das einen Monat alte Kind meiner Freundin blau aussuche, ruft die Verkäuferin: „Aber es ist doch ein Mädchen!“, und wickelt den Plüschstern gleich zweimal in fliederfarbenes Geschenkpapier.


(via @hanhaiwen)

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